Hey Wombies!
My name is Mych'Iayla Alexander. I was born and raised in Rockford, IL, moving to Brown Deer, WI in my early teenage years. I have a dual Bachelor Degree in Psychology and Spanish and a Masters Degree in Professional Counseling. I am a Certified School Counselor, Certified Birth and Bereavement Doula (CBBD), License Associate Counselor (LAC) and Perinatal Mental Health Certified Professional (PMH-C). I am a Worship Leader, Associate Pastor, and Associate Pastor at my church. I have been engaging others in the worship experience for over 30 years. I have been interviewed, and featured, to speak about my journey by several amazing people/organizations such as: Sisters in Loss Podcast, Sister in Loss YouTube Channel, WombPrep, Get Up, Girl Up Radio Show, Coming from the Heart and Empower 2 Heal.
I have many titles. Among them are wife, mother, bonus mother, daughter, sister, friend, associate pastor, cousin, niece, aunt, teacher, author, therapist, and I was once called INFERTILE. I had struggled with infertility for years (7 all together). I had three prior losses (Semaj Brea, Terrence Sylvester, and Breonna Leilani) and so I was fearful of trying. My husband and I tried for almost a year and a half. We kept trying to make all the right moves , get the timing perfect, and plan/outline the conception out. It didn't work.
I was labeled with PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome). I began taking birth control to assist in regular cycles and better predicting ovulation, about 6 months into our marriage. I already knew that it would be a struggle. The birth control didn't work. I began taking a medication that was prescribed to help increase those chances...that didn't work. I had the combination...that didn't work. I was tired. I was over it. "Maybe it is not my destiny to be a mother?" I gave up.
Right before my appointment, to begin a drug designed to "get you pregnant", the Lord said, "Do not go to that appointment. Instead schedule one for May...the beginning of May." I called and rescheduled my appointment. It was a good thing that I took heed to the voice of the Lord. I was already pregnant! I didn't know. I found out on April 23rd, 2017, after laying my Grandmother to rest. The appointment that the nurse wanted to schedule for me was the first week of May. I already had one on the books.
Wow! God is AMAZING!
I journeyed through the first part of my pregnancy (first 5 months) terrified. I then moved from terrified to a "normal" fear for the remainder of the pregnancy. I had already loss 3 babies, what if I lose this one? What will I do? But God...
One day I was pregnant and in prayer, and the Lord gave me this name, "The Womb Keeper." He told me that I needed to do what I was born to do, what He had called me to, and that there was purpose in all that I had gone through. My coach, at that time, sang over me saying that I would "lay hands on the ladies and they would have babies."
Every since that time, I have dedicated myself to making sure that ladies, and gentlemen, know that there is hope in infertility and on December 4th, 2017 I welcomed my #RainbowBaby, Worshyp. When she turned 8 months, I found out that I would be welcoming #MiracleBaby2, my #GoldenBaby. On April 2nd, 2019 I delivered a healthy baby girl. Harmoni. She is now 4 years old. We have been so blessed with her presence.
On February 7, 2021, my husband and I loss our dear, precious son, Jéan Amos Alexander. Day by day we healed. On January 6, 2022 we welcomed the last piece to our family puzzle, Zerrel; showing that our pain has purpose, yet again.
Know that though this is my journey, you have one to share too and I am right here with you.
Besitos,
#TheWombKeeper