My name is Mych'Iayla Alexander. I was born and raised in Rockford, IL, moving to Brown Deer, WI in my early teenage years. I have a dual Bachelor Degree in Psychology and Spanish and a Masters Degree in Professional Counseling. I am a Worship Leader at my church. I have been engaging others in the worship experience for over 13 years. I have been interviewed, and featured, on the Sisters in Loss Podcast to speak about my journey.
I have many titles. Among them are wife, mother, bonus mother, daughter, sister, friend, elder, cousin, niece, aunt, teacher, author, and I was once called INFERTILE.
I had struggled with infertility for years (7 all together). I had three prior losses (Semaj Brea, Terrence Sylvester, and Breonna Leilani) and so I was fearful of trying. My husband and I tried for a little under 2 years. We kept trying to make all the right moves , get the timing perfect, and plan/outline the conception out. It didn't work.
Now labeled with PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome), I began taking birth control, to assist in regular cycles and better predicting ovulation, about 6 months into our marriage. I already knew that it would be a struggle as I was previously married. The birth control didn't work. I began taking a medication that was prescribed to help increase those chances...that didn't work. I had the combination...that didn't work. I was tired. I was over it. "Maybe it is not my destiny to be a mother?" I gave up.
Right before my appointment to begin a drug designed to "get you pregnant", the Lord said, "Do not go to that appointment. Instead schedule one for May...the beginning of May." I called and rescheduled my appointment. It was a good thing that I took heed to the voice of the Lord. I was already pregnant! I didn't know. I found out on April 23rd, 2017 after laying my Grandmother to rest. The appointment that the nurse wanted to schedule for me was the first week of May. I already had one on the books.
Wow! God is AMAZING!
I journeyed through the first part of my pregnancy (first 5 months) terrified. I then moved from terrified to a "normal" fear for the remainder of the pregnancy. I had already loss 3 babies, what if I lose this one? What will I do? But God...
One day I was pregnant and in prayer, and the Lord gave me this name, "The Womb Keeper." He told me that I needed to do what I was born to do, what He had called me to, and that there was purpose in all that I had gone through. My coach sang over me saying that I would lay hands on the ladies and they would have babies.
Every since that time, I have dedicated myself to making sure that ladies, and gentlemen, know that there is hope in infertility and on December 4th, 2017 I welcomed my #RainbowBaby, Worshyp And when she turned 8 months, I found out that I would be welcoming #MiracleBaby2 . On April 2nd, 2019 I delivered a healthy baby girl. Harmoni. GOD IS ABLE!